20 thoughts on “Fatmagül’ün Suçu Ne? Episode 38 (Eng Subs)”
My mind gives me various reasons to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption. However, my heart says keep the baby even if the father isn’t supportive. (He doesn’t know yet.)
*price of daycare, diapers, formula, bottles, clothes, baby equipment, and stuff.
*the energy that is involved.
*i have a 12 yr old and a 8 yr old.. it has been awhile since i cared for an infant.
recently divorced. pregnant by someone i recently met (6 months ago)
You definitely need to use your mind to look at the facts and make the best decision for you and your baby. Please, don’t get an abortion. If you can’t realitically provide for the baby, then place it for adoption in a loving home with two parents who can provide everything it needs. Adoption may be difficult, but there are so many people out there who want babies that can’t get pregnant. Even if you want to keep the baby, is that really what’s best for you and the child, especially if the father may or may not be supportive? You really need to think about what is best.
Someone very close to me has just become a Father. His child was born just the other day, and his mind is very scattered. He’s seventeen and he’s not sure what to do. The mother and him do not get a long. Unfortunately this pregnancy was a mistake, and he says he wants nothing to do with the child. I can tell, after seeing and hearing about his child, he’s wondering what the right thing to do is. He’s now questoining whether or not he should become involved at all. I believe he should be involved in the child’s life, redarldess of the relationship with the mother and regardless of his age. This little baby needs a daddy… What would you do? Should he alteast meet the child? What’s the least he could be involved at all? Should he just send child support and birthday cards? Or should he be very involved with the child’s life? This is a very confusing situation when it’s actually you in this position, so please be understanding. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated <3 thank you.
He has a job and he fully intends to pay child support. He uses a condom and he’s actually not permiscuous (sp?) like most teen parents are thought to be. This just so happened to be, unfortunately, a dunken night. So, a condom wasn’t really in mind.
Wow, every single answer helped GREATLY. I don’t even want to pick a best answer because they were all amazingly supportive, thank you all very much. I will pass much of this information on to him… By the way, I may have left out that he is my boyfriend of 7 months, and this is all very new to me as well, So I thank you for the answers
he should at least meet the child. if he doesn’t, then when he’s older and feels ready to start a family, and finally holds a baby of his own in his arms, he may find that he feels unbearable regret at having missed out on his first baby’s life.
having said that, it’s a lot to take on board, and the mother’s hormones will be calling the shots with her for a while, so perhaps a couple of weeks to get used to the idea first wouldn’t go amiss.
it’s good that he intends to take his financial responsibility seriously, but i suspect that neither he nor the baby’s mother are prepared for how much emotional and practical support she will need.
it may be that at first she manages, but after a couple of months she’s going to start wanting to regain some of her independence. that might be a good time for him to step in and relieve her by having the child for the odd night or day to give her back some of her freedom.
he should work on building good communication between himself and the mother – if nothing else, it will make sorting out the financial situation easier, and will make it easier for them to discuss any issues that arise later on; for instance, if he still decides not to be part of his baby’s life in a couple of years, and she finds a new partner, she may want her new partner to adopt the child. this would terminate his parental rights and also his financial responsibility, and should be discussed between them first – in that instance, social services might well want to interview him regarding his position on the issue, and the whole process will be much easier if he is still in some kind of contact – even if it’s just through his parents or hers.
it will also be much better for the baby if he can be contacted should the child want to meet him when it is older. at seventeen it’s very difficult to think of things that might happen ten years down the line or might never happen, but they need to be considered.
he may need a little while to calm himself and collect his thoughts, but he should be encouraged to visit the child when he is ready. that first visit will probably clarify a lot of things in his mind with regard to both the baby and the mother.
if he decides he doesn’t want regular contact after that, then he should communicate with the child with letters/cards whenever he brings it to mind. even if these letters never get sent to the child (or if the mother refuses to pass them on), he should keep them for himself so that he can show the child later if necessary that he was thinking about it.
it’s true that the baby needs a daddy, but a daddy who’s flaky and lacks committment is worse than no daddy – him being on the scene as an extra could prevent the mother from finding another suitable candidate even if they’re not together. any changes to the level of contact he has with the child should be made gradually – no suddenly stopping visiting the kid without warning, and no barging in on, say, the fifth birthday, never having seen the kid before. decisions made now are not absolute or binding forever, but adjustments must be made with patience and tolerance by both parents.
What is going on, am i pregnant or is it a fake pregnancy my mind made up? and if it isn’t real how in the world would i feel all these real symptoms like ones listed plus my breasts feel like im making milk..my nipples feel exactly like they did every time i was pregnant and made milk…feel like a hard pain in my nipples and right behind nipples and sore achy breasts and uterus too.
I had my i.u.d removed on the first day of my period on October 21st last month and my husband and i did the deed on November 4th and on the 11th, according to ovulation charts i was most fertile on the 4th and im tellin ya i was so wanting to mate with him i was chasing him around the house hahaha, he would walk past me and i wanted to pounce o him lie a lioness on a gazelle hah, but seriously i have been having some serious symptoms the last week, OK hers the list of really obvious signs i have had or am now having….
1. nausea, and at times almost to point of vomiting
2. mild small headaches
3. really tender achy breasts and nipple pain/tenderness
4. my bra feels tighter
5. my belly feels swollen like when i get bloated
6. i feel my blood pumping down in the lower half of my body a lot in abdomen.
7. really moody, and cry easily
8. i can smell things so much more then usual, i had to blow out my oil burner cause the smell was making me sick.
9. i cant use any form of nicotine without getting sick.
10. had loose bowels few days ago and now im constipated really badly.
11. OK heres the biggest one and i felt this before i even knew what it could be,..
on the 12th i went shopping early in the morning with my husband and since i woke up that day i had this really awesome happy feeling right above my pelvic bone where my uterus would be at, and i described it to my husband in the car that it felt like a happy tickling feeling in my belly that i never felt before and it made me feel like my body was filled with love and the world seemed better when i felt it. then it stopped the next day and that night i went on the internet and was looking around at pregnancy symptoms ad found a site and on this site i found a paragraph that sayd how some women but very few have described feeling the “implantation” process as feeling like” an angel is touching them inside their womb with the tip of her feather” and i started to cry like a baby when i read that because that described what i had felt exactly….i knew what it was then.
but then yesterday i had a blood pregnancy test done and it was negative..i started crying and got mad at the nurse and i was nauseous and threw up there….the getting mad at the nurse is not like me…..so please comment and do you think i took the test too soon?? or do you think my mind has made all this stuff up in my body? in my heart its saying im pregnant…but my husband keeps saying he doesn’t think i am pregnant..maybe he is scared? thank you all for reading and please respond especially if you have any medical knowledge or personal; experience like what im having
thank-you, chassy k
Although the mind is a powerful thing, it really sounds like you could be pregnant. Do not rely on home pregnancy tests- they are not accurate at all. They turn negative when women are positive etc.
From experience, I took 12 home pregnancy tests and all of them came out negative… I’m now 29 weeks pregnant. So don’t rely on them, and go get a blood test when you’re further on – maybe wait 3 more weeks (yes weeks). It’s going to feel like a long time but sometimes your HCG levels (pregnancy hormone) is too low to be detected. You know your body best- but play it safe and don’t drink or anything until you know for sure.
you did something different than the previous one and maybe thats why you had a normal pregnancy? Like in your heart and mind do you wonder “I didn’t stress out that much on this pregnancy? or i checked with my doctor more often?” or did you just wait and see what happens. In my heart I feel that my next pregnancy will be fine. I just had a miscarriage a week ago, and do plan to get pregnant as soon as my doctor lets me. I know miscarriages happen for no unknown reason, but I feel that I will be a lot more careful on my next pregnancy.
For one I am already taking my prenatal vitamins, I will talk to my doctor about everything, I want him to check my hcg levels since the beginning. Since my last miscarriage they had been dropping every single time, not once did they go up.
Please don’t give me smart remarks about my question, but there has to be something that you ladies notice that you did differently on your pregnancy after a miscarriage. Thanks.
I had a miscarriage then turned around 8 months later and was pregnant again. I was scared. I stressed out STILL! i did go to the doctor sooner. But none of this had to do with why i carried through this pregnancy. After I had my first miscarriage, I was devastated! But I just knew in my heart that my next pregnancy I would be just fine. I had taht same feeling and well .. you just know things like that. Its hard to explain how you know.. but you just do. You need to fallow your gut feeling if you feel taht your next pregnancy will be ok and safe then it will be Mine was. I knwo exactly what you mean.
The only thing that I would say I did different, is that i checked and went to the doctor sooner, and if i ever had any questions I did not hesitate to call. And yes i worried but its only human and you will worry Good Luck next time!
We have been married for a while, in our late 20′s, and been talking about having kids. We’ve always wanted kids, we both have strong maternal instincts, both me and him.
Here’s my problem…
I proposed I stop birth control and if we do we do, if we don’t we don’t. My husband is very happy about this and can’t stop hugging me and smiling.
What originally was something I was happy with, is turning into fear. Immense fear.
As much as I want a baby, I worry. We live in a 2 bedroom apt with smoky noisy neighbors who live below us. Our neighborhood is okay at least. The 2nd bedroom is a gym…what will I do with al my fitness equipment? I always wanted a house one day or a bigger place to move in. We can’t afford to move right now.
I have a fear of everything changing. Of giving up freedom. BUT I look in the mirror, see the wrinkles form in my face, becoming aware that my youth is dwindling. I get extremely envious of others who have babies/children….I realize that it is time for me to grow up, pass the torch on so to speak. Also I am an only child and my heart aches for a bigger family, I could never havejust one kid and at the age of 27 I better get started.
My thinking is…if I let my fear consume me, I will just keep passing it off and passng it off. My best friend tells me if I keep waiting for a perfect time that I will never have children. I’m starting to think she is right. I want to cry right now because I am so conflicted.
Idk my fears are what if this apt isn’t good enough. Also I have a fear of everything changing my l
My boyfriend and I became sexually active after my cycle this month. For the life of me, I can’t remember the exact date I started on, but I’m going to safely say it was after the 5th and some where between then and the 9th. We didn’t use protection, but to my knowledge, he never came inside of me.
Not to throw too much information on the table, but we done it at least once a day every day, until I’d say maybe a week ago now. For a few days there, I just didn’t feel like myself, and everyone started to notice it, then I started noticing pregnancy symptoms. Consistent heart burn, fatigue, mood swings, eat a lot more, and I’d feel guilty about going out and partying under the influence, with just the intuition of knowing I’m pregnant. Yesterday, I took a HPT and the results were negative. I figured surely if I was having that many symptoms, I’d have enough hormones to detect a pregnancy test, no? I have yet to actually miss my period, so I could possibly be freaking out over nothing, but I have that instinct, gut-feeling that I am.
Jessica, Yahoo Answers isn’t for you to be some stero-typical ass munch trying to be hardcore with your key board.
Maybe I want a kid? Maybe I don’t? Maybe I’m allergic to latex? I mean..there’s so many possibilities. If you have not the slightest bit of helpful information, then get lost.
Just sending this out to everyone. We are on pregnancy number 2 (the first ended in miscarriage) and although we absolutely planned this I have found myself getting scared lately as the reality that we are actually pregnant has sunk in. Fears include being pregnant (what a trip), labor, delivery and really the awesome responsibility of parenting. The permanence of another person to take care of.
Please keep in your minds and hearts that we absolutely want to be be parents and are excited about this. It is just that every so often the reality hits me and it is overwhelming.
Is this normal? Did any of you have a planned pregnancy and still get the pregnancy/parenting jitters?
Of course it’s normal – you’ve never gone through most of this before! You are changing your life forever – who wouldn’t be nervous about that!
Educating yourself all about pregnancy and delievery and raising a child is the best way to put your mind at ease. Know that this little person is going to be unique and his/her personality is wired the same as you and your husband! When you meet your baby for the first time – it’s unbelieveable – nothing else will matter and although it’s a learning process for everyone – both of you will recognize how to “read” your baby and will just know instinctively what to do. It’s such an experience when you realize you just KNOW what’s going on with your child and how to react.
About Labor – the more you both know, the more at ease you will be. Being scared doesn’t help – it will make you tense and that makes it hurt more. The more you can relax, the easier it is. The more you can think about relaxing and breathing, the easier it is. I would encourage you to try natural labor because it really is less risky (from not having pitocin, not having episiotomy, other interventions, etc…) I had all natural labors with back labor (supposedly the worst) – I felt it all, but with my supportive husband and family members, I was totally worry-free. Labor only lasts so long and then it is OVER and you have your baby! You were built to have children – so trust that!
I hope I could be of encouragement. It’s okay to be nervous, but don’t be afraid of what you haven’t experienced. You’ll get through it! Best Wishes on a continued safe and happy pregnancy!!!
First pregnancy: Practically textbook for first 8mths. I worked up to 8mths complete w/o problems (just wanted to nap). In the last month I developed mild PIH & was induced at 38 weeks. Afte 27hrs of labor I ended up with a cesarean. Recovered so quickly I started training for my first marathon just 3mths later! I had no doubt I could do this again 2-3 more times! Bring on the kids!
Second pregnancy: Pregnancy was discovered by sudden onset of abdominal pain which the doc’s chalked up to muscle pull after deciding baby wasn’t ectopic. Abdominal pain came off & on through first 2/3rds pregnancy. Morning sickness was mild (nausea w/o vomiting) but lasted beyond the first trimester this time. Only got two weeks w/o nausea before all over chronic pain set in for the duration of the pregnancy. No one could tell me why or how to make it stop except to “slow down” & “get a massage”. I dismissed this advice as impractical- I was working part time, had a 2 year old to take care of, & there certainly wasn’t money in our budget for a professional massage! I ended up totally miserable, doing nothing beyond the necessary toward the end. I even quit my part time job 2 weeks early because I just couldn’t take it anymore. I just kept telling myself it would all be over once I gave birth. WRONG! It actually got worse. Following a 64hr labor (NOT a typo!) I ended up with another cesarean. (Turns out there is something funky about my pelvis *shape* that makes my kids turn the wrong way & get REALLY stuck.) That part (the labor), believe it or not, was not that bad. What was horrible is what followed: 6+ months of nonstop lochia (w/o anemia!), 7 episodes of what felt like food poisoning in the space of 3 months, chronic fatigue, random attacks of pain that would completely debilitate me for 30 seconds to 5 minutes at a time, postpartum depression, and test after test no one could tell me why or what to do about any of it.
I went to the library once to return some books & ended up collapsing with pain in the parking lot 20 feet from my car with my baby in his carrier on the ground next to me & my 2 year old squeezing my hand, scared for his mommy. I was terrified the pain wouldn’t go away this time & didn’t know what I would do if a car came toward us. Fortunately it did leave just 1 minute later (the longest minute of my life) & we were able to reach the car and go home. It took me over a month to leave my house alone (w/o another adult) again.
In the end, my hubby & I narrowed the medical possibilities down to hormones & decided (on our own) to stop breastfeeding at 6mths. In exact relation to how far I was with weaning, the symptoms started going away. At one month post breastfeeding even that original “muscle pull” pain was finally GONE FOR GOOD! Still, none of the doctors could understand or explain why stopping breastfeeding would make all those symptoms go away.
I was CERTAIN that I NEVER wanted to be pregnant again! I started looking toward adopting (something we’d always planned to do eventually regardless) . I even went in for a consultation about Essure to see how soon I could get it done given my mysterious medical issues. They told me to wait until 3 months had passed w/o symptoms.
2 weeks later I was wondering if the birth control had failed!!!! O.M.G!!!! My first reaction was total terror! But as one day turned to another & still one more before the blood test would come back… my heart & mind softened to the idea. And suddenly I couldn’t say with as much certainty that I did NOT want another bio child. The same thing happened to hubby.
I was not preggers.
I have always wanted 4-6 kids. Hubby has always said 3-4. And after the last pregnancy we had settled on 3. Now hubby says 4 would be good with him. And I’m excited by the idea of having 4. I know we could never afford to adopt more than 1 (TOO expensive! ). So if we’re going to have 4, then 3 need to be bio. But I’m worried…
*what if all my medical issues come back?
*what if they get worse?
*what if this time they don’t go away?!
*what if we get 3 & realize we can’t handle 4? I don’t want to give up adoption.
Am I crazy to risk unknown medical issues for a 3rd bio child???
Yes. I have a family history of Celiac Disease. They did the blood test for me, but it was negative.
The only way to know if they’re going to come back is to take that chance, and although it may sound risky to you and your husband, its what you’re going to have to do to have another one biologically and then adopt the other. If you can handle two….you can handle 4. The chaos just never ends.
well so my doctor seems to think im pregnant again my blood test result the other day showed my hcg level 38 i took a clear blue test yesterday it said pregnant 1-2weeks which makes me around 3-4 weeks ..
i have had two missed miscarriages both one after the other had d&c most recent was 3rd of june that’s why i got confused wether i was pregnant again..
anyway well so of course i told my hubby im pregnant again but he just doesn’t want to talk about it until after 12 weeks.. i can understand but what he doesn’t seem to understand is i need someone to talk about my worries and fears & he just doesn’t want to listen .. but he is happy about it he even said this time around we were going to buy a fetal doppler and monitor the heart rate at 8+ weeks . as i seemed to lose my babies between week 9 & 10
but my question is i don’t want to go to the doctor for checks up until im 12 weeks is this alright to do ? since they only give you a scan and tell you come back at 12 weeks anyway ..
i have been pregnant 5 times & have 3 children so im quiet aware on what not to do & to take prenatal vitamins etc so would i be alright in doing this ( not seeing the doctor for awhile ) to be honest i just don’t want a scan & it tell me my baby is dead again ..
12 weeks is fine, because all they do is a blood test, see if you are pregnant, and tell you that they want to wait til at least 10 weeks to do an ultrasound anyways. It’s your choice to wait, no one is going to condemn you. I could have waited longer to go to the doctor’s myself. I went in at almost 8 weeks [after getting 3 positive HPT's] and all my OB [at the time] did was take my blood, make me take a pregnancy test, and tell me to come back in at 12 weeks anyways. 12 weeks is perfectly acceptable! Don’t go too much longer though. You need to get check up’s and everything. Doctor’s and OB’s don’t like it when you go too long KNOWING your pregnant without seeing anybody.
I feel your pain, before this pregnancy I had 4 miscarriages, all 8-10 weeks. Now I’m 29 weeks I wish you the best of luck!!
I have a 7 month old son. A few months ago we had a condom break on us. A few weeks later I tested over and over and got possibly a faint positive and tons of negatives. Then I started getting heart burn and acid reflux which I only got in my pregnancy before. I went to the dr and got the depo shot. They tested first and said I wasn’t pregnant.
It’s been 3 months on the shot and I’ve been constantly bleeding. Light bleeding which they said was normal. Also during the first month or two of the shot I was cramping a lot. Lightly. Now for the past month I’ve been feeling kicking feelings in my stomach. If I was pregnant I would be around 20 weeks or so. And it’s the same light bumps and kicks I felt with my son at 20 weeks. I took anther test and it was negative!
Am I losing my mind??? Or could I seriously be pregnant? My husband lost his job just recently so I lost my insurance so I can’t get an ultrasound to find out for sure. What do you all think?
My mind gives me various reasons to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption. However, my heart says keep the baby even if the father isn’t supportive. (He doesn’t know yet.)
*price of daycare, diapers, formula, bottles, clothes, baby equipment, and stuff.
*the energy that is involved.
*i have a 12 yr old and a 8 yr old.. it has been awhile since i cared for an infant.
recently divorced. pregnant by someone i recently met (6 months ago)
You definitely need to use your mind to look at the facts and make the best decision for you and your baby. Please, don’t get an abortion. If you can’t realitically provide for the baby, then place it for adoption in a loving home with two parents who can provide everything it needs. Adoption may be difficult, but there are so many people out there who want babies that can’t get pregnant. Even if you want to keep the baby, is that really what’s best for you and the child, especially if the father may or may not be supportive? You really need to think about what is best.
Someone very close to me has just become a Father. His child was born just the other day, and his mind is very scattered. He’s seventeen and he’s not sure what to do. The mother and him do not get a long. Unfortunately this pregnancy was a mistake, and he says he wants nothing to do with the child. I can tell, after seeing and hearing about his child, he’s wondering what the right thing to do is. He’s now questoining whether or not he should become involved at all. I believe he should be involved in the child’s life, redarldess of the relationship with the mother and regardless of his age. This little baby needs a daddy… What would you do? Should he alteast meet the child? What’s the least he could be involved at all? Should he just send child support and birthday cards? Or should he be very involved with the child’s life? This is a very confusing situation when it’s actually you in this position, so please be understanding. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated <3 thank you.
He has a job and he fully intends to pay child support. He uses a condom and he’s actually not permiscuous (sp?) like most teen parents are thought to be. This just so happened to be, unfortunately, a dunken night. So, a condom wasn’t really in mind.
Wow, every single answer helped GREATLY. I don’t even want to pick a best answer because they were all amazingly supportive, thank you all very much. I will pass much of this information on to him… By the way, I may have left out that he is my boyfriend of 7 months, and this is all very new to me as well, So I thank you for the answers
he should at least meet the child. if he doesn’t, then when he’s older and feels ready to start a family, and finally holds a baby of his own in his arms, he may find that he feels unbearable regret at having missed out on his first baby’s life.
having said that, it’s a lot to take on board, and the mother’s hormones will be calling the shots with her for a while, so perhaps a couple of weeks to get used to the idea first wouldn’t go amiss.
it’s good that he intends to take his financial responsibility seriously, but i suspect that neither he nor the baby’s mother are prepared for how much emotional and practical support she will need.
it may be that at first she manages, but after a couple of months she’s going to start wanting to regain some of her independence. that might be a good time for him to step in and relieve her by having the child for the odd night or day to give her back some of her freedom.
he should work on building good communication between himself and the mother – if nothing else, it will make sorting out the financial situation easier, and will make it easier for them to discuss any issues that arise later on; for instance, if he still decides not to be part of his baby’s life in a couple of years, and she finds a new partner, she may want her new partner to adopt the child. this would terminate his parental rights and also his financial responsibility, and should be discussed between them first – in that instance, social services might well want to interview him regarding his position on the issue, and the whole process will be much easier if he is still in some kind of contact – even if it’s just through his parents or hers.
it will also be much better for the baby if he can be contacted should the child want to meet him when it is older. at seventeen it’s very difficult to think of things that might happen ten years down the line or might never happen, but they need to be considered.
he may need a little while to calm himself and collect his thoughts, but he should be encouraged to visit the child when he is ready. that first visit will probably clarify a lot of things in his mind with regard to both the baby and the mother.
if he decides he doesn’t want regular contact after that, then he should communicate with the child with letters/cards whenever he brings it to mind. even if these letters never get sent to the child (or if the mother refuses to pass them on), he should keep them for himself so that he can show the child later if necessary that he was thinking about it.
it’s true that the baby needs a daddy, but a daddy who’s flaky and lacks committment is worse than no daddy – him being on the scene as an extra could prevent the mother from finding another suitable candidate even if they’re not together. any changes to the level of contact he has with the child should be made gradually – no suddenly stopping visiting the kid without warning, and no barging in on, say, the fifth birthday, never having seen the kid before. decisions made now are not absolute or binding forever, but adjustments must be made with patience and tolerance by both parents.
What is going on, am i pregnant or is it a fake pregnancy my mind made up? and if it isn’t real how in the world would i feel all these real symptoms like ones listed plus my breasts feel like im making milk..my nipples feel exactly like they did every time i was pregnant and made milk…feel like a hard pain in my nipples and right behind nipples and sore achy breasts and uterus too.
I had my i.u.d removed on the first day of my period on October 21st last month and my husband and i did the deed on November 4th and on the 11th, according to ovulation charts i was most fertile on the 4th and im tellin ya i was so wanting to mate with him i was chasing him around the house hahaha, he would walk past me and i wanted to pounce o him lie a lioness on a gazelle hah, but seriously i have been having some serious symptoms the last week, OK hers the list of really obvious signs i have had or am now having….
1. nausea, and at times almost to point of vomiting
2. mild small headaches
3. really tender achy breasts and nipple pain/tenderness
4. my bra feels tighter
5. my belly feels swollen like when i get bloated
6. i feel my blood pumping down in the lower half of my body a lot in abdomen.
7. really moody, and cry easily
8. i can smell things so much more then usual, i had to blow out my oil burner cause the smell was making me sick.
9. i cant use any form of nicotine without getting sick.
10. had loose bowels few days ago and now im constipated really badly.
11. OK heres the biggest one and i felt this before i even knew what it could be,..
on the 12th i went shopping early in the morning with my husband and since i woke up that day i had this really awesome happy feeling right above my pelvic bone where my uterus would be at, and i described it to my husband in the car that it felt like a happy tickling feeling in my belly that i never felt before and it made me feel like my body was filled with love and the world seemed better when i felt it. then it stopped the next day and that night i went on the internet and was looking around at pregnancy symptoms ad found a site and on this site i found a paragraph that sayd how some women but very few have described feeling the “implantation” process as feeling like” an angel is touching them inside their womb with the tip of her feather” and i started to cry like a baby when i read that because that described what i had felt exactly….i knew what it was then.
but then yesterday i had a blood pregnancy test done and it was negative..i started crying and got mad at the nurse and i was nauseous and threw up there….the getting mad at the nurse is not like me…..so please comment and do you think i took the test too soon?? or do you think my mind has made all this stuff up in my body? in my heart its saying im pregnant…but my husband keeps saying he doesn’t think i am pregnant..maybe he is scared? thank you all for reading and please respond especially if you have any medical knowledge or personal; experience like what im having
thank-you, chassy k
Although the mind is a powerful thing, it really sounds like you could be pregnant. Do not rely on home pregnancy tests- they are not accurate at all. They turn negative when women are positive etc.
From experience, I took 12 home pregnancy tests and all of them came out negative… I’m now 29 weeks pregnant. So don’t rely on them, and go get a blood test when you’re further on – maybe wait 3 more weeks (yes weeks). It’s going to feel like a long time but sometimes your HCG levels (pregnancy hormone) is too low to be detected. You know your body best- but play it safe and don’t drink or anything until you know for sure.
Good luck * sends baby dust!*
you did something different than the previous one and maybe thats why you had a normal pregnancy? Like in your heart and mind do you wonder “I didn’t stress out that much on this pregnancy? or i checked with my doctor more often?” or did you just wait and see what happens. In my heart I feel that my next pregnancy will be fine. I just had a miscarriage a week ago, and do plan to get pregnant as soon as my doctor lets me. I know miscarriages happen for no unknown reason, but I feel that I will be a lot more careful on my next pregnancy.
For one I am already taking my prenatal vitamins, I will talk to my doctor about everything, I want him to check my hcg levels since the beginning. Since my last miscarriage they had been dropping every single time, not once did they go up.
Please don’t give me smart remarks about my question, but there has to be something that you ladies notice that you did differently on your pregnancy after a miscarriage. Thanks.
I had a miscarriage then turned around 8 months later and was pregnant again. I was scared. I stressed out STILL! i did go to the doctor sooner. But none of this had to do with why i carried through this pregnancy. After I had my first miscarriage, I was devastated! But I just knew in my heart that my next pregnancy I would be just fine. I had taht same feeling and well .. you just know things like that. Its hard to explain how you know.. but you just do. You need to fallow your gut feeling if you feel taht your next pregnancy will be ok and safe then it will be
Mine was. I knwo exactly what you mean.
Good Luck next time!
The only thing that I would say I did different, is that i checked and went to the doctor sooner, and if i ever had any questions I did not hesitate to call. And yes i worried but its only human and you will worry
We have been married for a while, in our late 20′s, and been talking about having kids. We’ve always wanted kids, we both have strong maternal instincts, both me and him.
Here’s my problem…
I proposed I stop birth control and if we do we do, if we don’t we don’t. My husband is very happy about this and can’t stop hugging me and smiling.
What originally was something I was happy with, is turning into fear. Immense fear.
As much as I want a baby, I worry. We live in a 2 bedroom apt with smoky noisy neighbors who live below us. Our neighborhood is okay at least. The 2nd bedroom is a gym…what will I do with al my fitness equipment? I always wanted a house one day or a bigger place to move in. We can’t afford to move right now.
I have a fear of everything changing. Of giving up freedom. BUT I look in the mirror, see the wrinkles form in my face, becoming aware that my youth is dwindling. I get extremely envious of others who have babies/children….I realize that it is time for me to grow up, pass the torch on so to speak. Also I am an only child and my heart aches for a bigger family, I could never havejust one kid and at the age of 27 I better get started.
My thinking is…if I let my fear consume me, I will just keep passing it off and passng it off. My best friend tells me if I keep waiting for a perfect time that I will never have children. I’m starting to think she is right. I want to cry right now because I am so conflicted.
Idk my fears are what if this apt isn’t good enough. Also I have a fear of everything changing my l
All your fears will go away once the baby is born. Find a house you can rent for now until you save enough money to buy youre own home.
My boyfriend and I became sexually active after my cycle this month. For the life of me, I can’t remember the exact date I started on, but I’m going to safely say it was after the 5th and some where between then and the 9th. We didn’t use protection, but to my knowledge, he never came inside of me.
Not to throw too much information on the table, but we done it at least once a day every day, until I’d say maybe a week ago now. For a few days there, I just didn’t feel like myself, and everyone started to notice it, then I started noticing pregnancy symptoms. Consistent heart burn, fatigue, mood swings, eat a lot more, and I’d feel guilty about going out and partying under the influence, with just the intuition of knowing I’m pregnant. Yesterday, I took a HPT and the results were negative. I figured surely if I was having that many symptoms, I’d have enough hormones to detect a pregnancy test, no? I have yet to actually miss my period, so I could possibly be freaking out over nothing, but I have that instinct, gut-feeling that I am.
Jessica, Yahoo Answers isn’t for you to be some stero-typical ass munch trying to be hardcore with your key board.
Maybe I want a kid? Maybe I don’t? Maybe I’m allergic to latex? I mean..there’s so many possibilities. If you have not the slightest bit of helpful information, then get lost.
Definite signs of pregnancy, you are pregnant! Congrats!
Just sending this out to everyone. We are on pregnancy number 2 (the first ended in miscarriage) and although we absolutely planned this I have found myself getting scared lately as the reality that we are actually pregnant has sunk in. Fears include being pregnant (what a trip), labor, delivery and really the awesome responsibility of parenting. The permanence of another person to take care of.
Please keep in your minds and hearts that we absolutely want to be be parents and are excited about this. It is just that every so often the reality hits me and it is overwhelming.
Is this normal? Did any of you have a planned pregnancy and still get the pregnancy/parenting jitters?
Of course it’s normal – you’ve never gone through most of this before! You are changing your life forever – who wouldn’t be nervous about that!
Educating yourself all about pregnancy and delievery and raising a child is the best way to put your mind at ease. Know that this little person is going to be unique and his/her personality is wired the same as you and your husband! When you meet your baby for the first time – it’s unbelieveable – nothing else will matter and although it’s a learning process for everyone – both of you will recognize how to “read” your baby and will just know instinctively what to do. It’s such an experience when you realize you just KNOW what’s going on with your child and how to react.
About Labor – the more you both know, the more at ease you will be. Being scared doesn’t help – it will make you tense and that makes it hurt more. The more you can relax, the easier it is. The more you can think about relaxing and breathing, the easier it is. I would encourage you to try natural labor because it really is less risky (from not having pitocin, not having episiotomy, other interventions, etc…) I had all natural labors with back labor (supposedly the worst) – I felt it all, but with my supportive husband and family members, I was totally worry-free. Labor only lasts so long and then it is OVER and you have your baby! You were built to have children – so trust that!
I hope I could be of encouragement. It’s okay to be nervous, but don’t be afraid of what you haven’t experienced. You’ll get through it! Best Wishes on a continued safe and happy pregnancy!!!
First pregnancy: Practically textbook for first 8mths. I worked up to 8mths complete w/o problems (just wanted to nap). In the last month I developed mild PIH & was induced at 38 weeks. Afte 27hrs of labor I ended up with a cesarean. Recovered so quickly I started training for my first marathon just 3mths later! I had no doubt I could do this again 2-3 more times! Bring on the kids!
Second pregnancy: Pregnancy was discovered by sudden onset of abdominal pain which the doc’s chalked up to muscle pull after deciding baby wasn’t ectopic. Abdominal pain came off & on through first 2/3rds pregnancy. Morning sickness was mild (nausea w/o vomiting) but lasted beyond the first trimester this time. Only got two weeks w/o nausea before all over chronic pain set in for the duration of the pregnancy. No one could tell me why or how to make it stop except to “slow down” & “get a massage”. I dismissed this advice as impractical- I was working part time, had a 2 year old to take care of, & there certainly wasn’t money in our budget for a professional massage! I ended up totally miserable, doing nothing beyond the necessary toward the end. I even quit my part time job 2 weeks early because I just couldn’t take it anymore. I just kept telling myself it would all be over once I gave birth. WRONG! It actually got worse. Following a 64hr labor (NOT a typo!) I ended up with another cesarean. (Turns out there is something funky about my pelvis *shape* that makes my kids turn the wrong way & get REALLY stuck.) That part (the labor), believe it or not, was not that bad. What was horrible is what followed: 6+ months of nonstop lochia (w/o anemia!), 7 episodes of what felt like food poisoning in the space of 3 months, chronic fatigue, random attacks of pain that would completely debilitate me for 30 seconds to 5 minutes at a time, postpartum depression, and test after test no one could tell me why or what to do about any of it.
I went to the library once to return some books & ended up collapsing with pain in the parking lot 20 feet from my car with my baby in his carrier on the ground next to me & my 2 year old squeezing my hand, scared for his mommy. I was terrified the pain wouldn’t go away this time & didn’t know what I would do if a car came toward us. Fortunately it did leave just 1 minute later (the longest minute of my life) & we were able to reach the car and go home. It took me over a month to leave my house alone (w/o another adult) again.
In the end, my hubby & I narrowed the medical possibilities down to hormones & decided (on our own) to stop breastfeeding at 6mths. In exact relation to how far I was with weaning, the symptoms started going away. At one month post breastfeeding even that original “muscle pull” pain was finally GONE FOR GOOD! Still, none of the doctors could understand or explain why stopping breastfeeding would make all those symptoms go away.
I was CERTAIN that I NEVER wanted to be pregnant again! I started looking toward adopting (something we’d always planned to do eventually regardless) . I even went in for a consultation about Essure to see how soon I could get it done given my mysterious medical issues. They told me to wait until 3 months had passed w/o symptoms.
2 weeks later I was wondering if the birth control had failed!!!! O.M.G!!!! My first reaction was total terror! But as one day turned to another & still one more before the blood test would come back… my heart & mind softened to the idea. And suddenly I couldn’t say with as much certainty that I did NOT want another bio child. The same thing happened to hubby.
I was not preggers.
I have always wanted 4-6 kids. Hubby has always said 3-4. And after the last pregnancy we had settled on 3. Now hubby says 4 would be good with him. And I’m excited by the idea of having 4. I know we could never afford to adopt more than 1 (TOO expensive!
). So if we’re going to have 4, then 3 need to be bio. But I’m worried…
*what if all my medical issues come back?
*what if they get worse?
*what if this time they don’t go away?!
*what if we get 3 & realize we can’t handle 4? I don’t want to give up adoption.
Am I crazy to risk unknown medical issues for a 3rd bio child???
Yes. I have a family history of Celiac Disease. They did the blood test for me, but it was negative.
The only way to know if they’re going to come back is to take that chance, and although it may sound risky to you and your husband, its what you’re going to have to do to have another one biologically and then adopt the other. If you can handle two….you can handle 4. The chaos just never ends.
well so my doctor seems to think im pregnant again my blood test result the other day showed my hcg level 38 i took a clear blue test yesterday it said pregnant 1-2weeks which makes me around 3-4 weeks ..
i have had two missed miscarriages both one after the other had d&c most recent was 3rd of june that’s why i got confused wether i was pregnant again..
anyway well so of course i told my hubby im pregnant again but he just doesn’t want to talk about it until after 12 weeks.. i can understand but what he doesn’t seem to understand is i need someone to talk about my worries and fears & he just doesn’t want to listen .. but he is happy about it he even said this time around we were going to buy a fetal doppler and monitor the heart rate at 8+ weeks . as i seemed to lose my babies between week 9 & 10
but my question is i don’t want to go to the doctor for checks up until im 12 weeks is this alright to do ? since they only give you a scan and tell you come back at 12 weeks anyway ..
i have been pregnant 5 times & have 3 children so im quiet aware on what not to do & to take prenatal vitamins etc so would i be alright in doing this ( not seeing the doctor for awhile ) to be honest i just don’t want a scan & it tell me my baby is dead again ..
12 weeks is fine, because all they do is a blood test, see if you are pregnant, and tell you that they want to wait til at least 10 weeks to do an ultrasound anyways. It’s your choice to wait, no one is going to condemn you. I could have waited longer to go to the doctor’s myself. I went in at almost 8 weeks [after getting 3 positive HPT's] and all my OB [at the time] did was take my blood, make me take a pregnancy test, and tell me to come back in at 12 weeks anyways. 12 weeks is perfectly acceptable! Don’t go too much longer though. You need to get check up’s and everything. Doctor’s and OB’s don’t like it when you go too long KNOWING your pregnant without seeing anybody.
I feel your pain, before this pregnancy I had 4 miscarriages, all 8-10 weeks. Now I’m 29 weeks
I wish you the best of luck!!
Here’s my story,
I have a 7 month old son. A few months ago we had a condom break on us. A few weeks later I tested over and over and got possibly a faint positive and tons of negatives. Then I started getting heart burn and acid reflux which I only got in my pregnancy before. I went to the dr and got the depo shot. They tested first and said I wasn’t pregnant.
It’s been 3 months on the shot and I’ve been constantly bleeding. Light bleeding which they said was normal. Also during the first month or two of the shot I was cramping a lot. Lightly. Now for the past month I’ve been feeling kicking feelings in my stomach. If I was pregnant I would be around 20 weeks or so. And it’s the same light bumps and kicks I felt with my son at 20 weeks. I took anther test and it was negative!
Am I losing my mind??? Or could I seriously be pregnant? My husband lost his job just recently so I lost my insurance so I can’t get an ultrasound to find out for sure. What do you all think?